Jun 24, 2020
Do you have a parent, partner or colleague who always has to be RIGHT? Do they blame you for things that you have no control over? If so, you may be dealing with a Hijackal. So, how do you identify when you’re in a toxic relationship? And more importantly, what can you do about it?
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, is the Relationship Help Doctor behind Transforming Relationship, a platform designed to provide ongoing care for relationships in crisis. She focuses on helping the partners, exes and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls Hijackals to ‘stop the crazy-making and save their sanity.’ Rhoberta is also the author of 16 books on toxic relationships, and she serves as the host of the Emotional Savvy and Save Your Sanity podcasts.
On this episode of Wickedly Smart Women, Rhoberta joins Emerald to walk us through the characteristics of a toxic relationship. She describes how Hijackals show up in personal and professional relationships, explaining what we can do to recognize their behavior and reclaim our sense of self. Listen in for Rhoberta’s insight on why fixing someone else’s behavior is not YOUR responsibility and learn the three hallmarks of a healthy relationship!
How growing up with Hijackal parents called Rhoberta to this work
How to identify when you’re in a toxic relationship
How the public perception of a Hijackal differs from their private behavior
What Rhoberta does to help people regain their sense of confidence
Why our adversarial court system favors Hijackals
How Hijackals show up in business relationships
The three hallmarks of a healthy relationship
How to recognize ‘love bombing’ in personal + professional relationships
How to identify when you’ve taken on Hijackal traits
Why fixing someone else’s behavior is NOT your responsibility
How Rhoberta’s spiritual life supports her in showing up + speaking out
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